Co-Parenting During the Holidays

Many divorced and separated parents are in the midst of the most emotional and contentious part of the year: the holidays. The arguments and strife the drove parents apart in the first place usually come back with a vengeance during a time to be jolly. Of course, all parents want the best for their children. They want to include kids in family activities and school functions, and they want their children to have experiences that will last a lifetime. However, they may be too rigid when things go awry, and mountains are created from molehill arguments.

Nevertheless, parents make the most of the holiday season and avoid disagreements. The following tips can help.

Be flexible - The most important thing to remember as co-parents is that the holiday season is a collection of days and events; which means that you can celebrate when you have the children in your care.

Why is it important?

Children are surprisingly resilient and don't care what day a holiday falls on. As long as they get to spend the holidays with you, everything is great in their world. This means that Christmas does not have to be celebrated on December 25th. As long as you're there and show that you care, the holidays will be festive and memorable no matter what day you celebrate.

Compromise is key - The old adage "Peace on Earth, Goodwill to Men" is rooted in compromise. Parents should set their personal interests aside to promote their children's happiness during the holidays and focus on win-win scenarios for the kids. After all, if the Germans and British forged a Christmas truce during World War I, you can too. And while he or she may not show it, your ex will be grateful if you compromise on parenting time.